Abusive relationships are about power and control. Healthy relationships are about sharing and negoitating and respecting boundaries. This may sound we all come to relationships with our histories and views on relationships. We also come from a community / media that sends very dissreptful messages to women and men about how they are valued and how women are not. Thus no one is immune to finding themselves in an unhealthy relationship. However, the basis of creating a healthy relationship is knowing yourself and learning to voice your wants and boundaries. Also it is knowing the warning signs of an abusive person so it allows the woman to get out as early as possible. For women, many have learned not to voice their concerns, or believe that you can save or heal someone even if they hurt you or they beleive they are not good enough thus deserve poor treatment. Unlearning these beleifs and valuing your worth is one way that you will be able to build a healthy relationship. The other way is that the partner you choose must come with the same kind of maturity.
Below is a list of characteristics found in healthy relationships. This list can be used along with the “Evaluate Your Relationship” to help you better understand your own relationship.
However, there are some VERY significant differences.
Remember, you have the right to be treated with respect. Let your partner know what your expectations and boundaries are for the relationship.